Words for men who are done pretending.
Essays on shadow work, integration, and the uncomfortable truths that set you free.
No hacks.
No shortcuts.
No comfortable lies.
Just the work that actually changes you.
Each piece is written from experience — not theory. Real insights for men doing the real work.
Recent writing
The Paper Doesn't Make the Coach
Certifications don't create great coaches. Lived experience and genuine human connection do.
Who Really Owns Your Feelings?
You're responsible for managing your own emotions — not your partner. Here's why that changes everything.
The Quiet Crisis of Broken Moral Compasses
Why do smart people keep walking into the same harmful situations? It's not bad luck.
The Mechanics of Stuckness
You want change but resist it. Fear, comfort, and identity narratives are keeping you exactly where you are.
Help Your Friends & Be a Person of Your Word
Keeping promises strengthens relationships and improves mental health. Reliability isn't optional.
Why We Need to Focus on Men's Mental Health
Men are underdiagnosed and undersupported. Society's barriers are killing us — literally.
The truth will set you free.
But first, it will piss you off.
— Gloria Steinem