You've built something.
But you already know something's off.
You can describe your own patterns better than most people can describe theirs. You've done some version of "the work." Read the books, maybe sat with a therapist, definitely had the late-night realizations.
And yet the same things keep happening. The distance in relationships. The cycle of starting strong and losing steam. The life you can picture still sitting at arm's length from the one you're actually living.
I know that place. I lived there for years.
From knowing to doing (the hard way)
I studied psychology at 20 because I wanted to understand people, starting with myself.
Then I spent 15 years building things. Freelance consulting. A marketing agency I co-founded (53mondays). Bordeaux's first coworking space. I was good at starting. Less good at staying.
By my mid-thirties I had the resume and the reputation. I also had depression and a relationship I knew was wrong but couldn't leave. I could explain exactly why I was stuck. I could name every pattern and trace them back to their origins.
None of that stopped me from repeating them.
What finally changed was building a structure that forced me to act on what I already knew. Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu taught me that understanding a technique means nothing if your body can't execute it under pressure. Same principle applies to everything else.
I stopped explaining my patterns and started replacing them. It took discipline and a willingness to be uncomfortable for longer than I wanted to be.
That work continues. It always does.
I write about this process openly. About what happens when your moral compass breaks, about who really owns your feelings, and about why we stay stuck even when we know better.
How I work
I work with the specific patterns that keep you stuck. The ones you can describe perfectly but can't seem to break. Every man's version is different, but the structure is the same: we find the real driver, build practices that move you from understanding to doing, and put it into your actual life until it holds.
I pull from several places:
Depth psychology for understanding what's really driving the pattern. To make sure we're working on the right thing.
Cognitive and behavioral approaches for rewiring how you think and respond. Patterns are habits, and habits respond to structure.
Systems thinking for seeing how your relationships and habits reinforce each other. Change one piece without seeing the system and it snaps back.
Stoic philosophy for the daily discipline of acting on what you know is right, especially when you don't feel like it.
Gottman research for the relationship side. If your relationships are suffering, we use what actually works.
I use what fits your situation.
Psychology
Background
Gottman
Level 2 Certified
BJJ
Purple Belt
20+
Years Entrepreneur
My life now
I'm married to Yana, a nutritionist and personal trainer who has seen me at my worst and stayed. Ten years together. We survived Covid lockdown in Thailand and left Ukraine days before the full-scale invasion.
Now we split time between Ukraine, France, and Thailand with our Shiba Inu, Kaiju.
Outside of sessions: BJJ (purple belt), painting, building software products. I've lived in 15 countries. It helps me connect with people from very different backgrounds.
Kaiju
The Shiba Inu who
runs the house
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