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Men's Coach · Gottman Trained

You already know what's wrong.You just can't stop doing it.

You can see the pattern. You just can't seem to break it. I help men close the gap between insight and action.

Book a Free Call 30 minutes. No pitch.

Gottman Level 2 Certified | 20+ years as an entrepreneur | 10 years together

Smart men get stuck in three ways.

The Performance

You're one person at work and another at home. You tell yourself this is normal. Everyone does it. But the distance between those versions of you is growing, and the people closest to you can feel it.

The Loop

You see the pattern. You name it. You swear this time will be different. Then three weeks later you're back in the same argument, the same avoidance you promised yourself you'd stop. You have plenty of insight. What you don't have is a way to act on it.

The Drain

You're tired in a way that sleep doesn't fix. Not burned out from working too hard. Drained from holding it all together, performing instead of being, spending energy on an image that doesn't match what's underneath.

None of this means you're broken. You've been relying on awareness alone, and awareness without structure doesn't change anything.

About

I'm Lesly. I know this problem from the inside.

I spent years being the guy who could explain his own patterns perfectly and still repeat them. I had the psychology background and the vocabulary. None of it stopped me from staying in a relationship that was killing me or avoiding the hard conversations I knew I needed to have.

What changed was building a practice that forced me to act on what I already knew. That's what I do with the men I work with now.

Insight didn't change my life. Practice did.

Together: 10 yrs
Years entrepreneur: 20+
Background: Psych
Gottman Certified: L2

You already know both versions of the next year.

If nothing changes:

Same arguments, same distance, same hollow feeling after
More books and podcasts, more insight that doesn't land
Another year of being the smartest person in the room who still can't get out of his own way

If you do the work:

You stop performing and start being the same person everywhere
The patterns that used to run you become choices you make consciously
Your relationships get honest, and honesty turns out to be less scary than pretending

You've known long enough.

30 minutes. No cost. A real conversation about what's keeping you stuck and what it would take to move.

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Limited spots each month.

About

You've built something. But you already know something's off.

You can describe your own patterns better than most people can describe theirs. You've done some version of "the work." Read the books, maybe sat with a therapist, definitely had the late-night realizations.

And yet the same things keep happening. The distance in relationships. The cycle of starting strong and losing steam. The life you can picture still sitting at arm's length from the one you're actually living.

I know that place. I lived there for years.

My Story

From knowing to doing (the hard way)

I studied psychology at 20 because I wanted to understand people, starting with myself.

Then I spent 15 years building things. Freelance consulting. A marketing agency I co-founded (53mondays). Bordeaux's first coworking space. I was good at starting. Less good at staying.

By my mid-thirties I had the resume and the reputation. I also had depression and a relationship I knew was wrong but couldn't leave. I could explain exactly why I was stuck. I could name every pattern and trace them back to their origins.

None of that stopped me from repeating them.

What finally changed was building a structure that forced me to act on what I already knew. Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu taught me that understanding a technique means nothing if your body can't execute it under pressure. Same principle applies to everything else.

I stopped explaining my patterns and started replacing them. It took discipline and a willingness to be uncomfortable for longer than I wanted to be.

That work continues. It always does.

I write about this process openly. About what happens when your moral compass breaks, about who really owns your feelings, and about why we stay stuck even when we know better.

Approach

How I work

I work with the specific patterns that keep you stuck. The ones you can describe perfectly but can't seem to break. Every man's version is different, but the structure is the same: we find the real driver, build practices that move you from understanding to doing, and put it into your actual life until it holds.

I pull from several places:

Depth psychology for understanding what's really driving the pattern. To make sure we're working on the right thing.

Cognitive and behavioral approaches for rewiring how you think and respond. Patterns are habits, and habits respond to structure.

Systems thinking for seeing how your relationships and habits reinforce each other. Change one piece without seeing the system and it snaps back.

Stoic philosophy for the daily discipline of acting on what you know is right, especially when you don't feel like it.

Gottman research for the relationship side. If your relationships are suffering, we use what actually works.

I use what fits your situation.

Now

My life now

I'm married to Yana, a nutritionist and personal trainer who has seen me at my worst and stayed. Ten years together. We survived Covid lockdown in Thailand and left Ukraine days before the full-scale invasion.

Now we split time between Ukraine, France, and Thailand with our Shiba Inu, Kaiju.

Outside of sessions: BJJ (purple belt), painting, building software products. I've lived in 15 countries. It helps me connect with people from very different backgrounds.

Psychology Background
Gottman Level 2 Certified
BJJ Purple Belt
20+ Years Entrepreneur

together: 10 years
countries lived: 15

Lesly Garreau coaching a client over coffee

Kaiju · The Shiba Inu who runs the house

Places I have lived

Kyiv, Ukraine
Bangkok, Thailand
Vientiane, Laos
Da Nang, Vietnam
Phnom Penh, Cambodia
Penang, Malaysia
Bali, Indonesia
Medellin, Colombia
Lima, Peru
Bordeaux, France
Valencia, Spain
London, England
Istanbul, Turkey
Hamburg, Germany
Krakow, Poland

Ready?

If something here resonated, let's talk.

Book a free fit call. 30 minutes, no obligation. We'll figure out if we're a good fit.

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The Process

Three stages. No jargon.

01

See it clearly

We figure out what's actually driving the pattern, underneath the story you tell yourself about it. I ask questions most people won't ask, and I won't let you hide behind clever answers. You'll leave the first conversation knowing what's been running the show.
Free fit call. 30 minutes.
02

Build the bridge

Knowing the pattern isn't enough. We build specific practices that move you from understanding to doing. This isn't "try harder" advice. It's a system designed around how you actually work, your blind spots, and the specific ways you sabotage yourself.
Personalized to you.
03

Make it permanent

Weekly sessions where we put the work into your real life. Your relationships, your decisions, the daily stuff. By week 12, the patterns that kept pulling you back have lost their grip. You're not forcing yourself to be different. You just are.
12 weeks of focused work.

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Programs

Pick where you are.

Three ways to start, depending on how much support you need.

Are we a good fit?

Free No obligation

A short call to see whether working together makes sense.

30-minute conversation
A chance to talk about where you are and what you want help with
We decide whether we're a good fit to work together

Book a Call

Private coaching session

$97 Per session

A 60-minute session you can book weekly or monthly, depending on the support you need.

60-minute private session
Available weekly or monthly
Focused support around what's happening right now
Useful on its own or before joining the full program

Book a Session

The full program

$997 Full program

12 weeks of focused work to break the patterns that keep you stuck between knowing and doing.

12 weekly 1:1 coaching sessions
Custom practices designed for your specific patterns
Direct messaging support between sessions
We build a plan you can actually follow

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Stories

What men say after the work.

I finally understand why I kept repeating the same patterns. Lesly didn't just tell me what was wrong. He showed me how I was creating it. And more importantly, how to stop. This work changed everything.

Michael T.Founder · San Francisco

Gottman Level 2 Certified
20+ years as an entrepreneur
10 years together

FAQ

Straight answers.

What makes this different from other coaching?

Most coaching gives you a plan and hopes you follow it. I work on the reason you don't follow plans. We go after the patterns underneath, the ones that make you repeat the same cycles even when you know better.

How fast will I see results?

Most men feel a shift in the first conversation. Something clicks that they've been avoiding. Real change shows up over 8-12 weeks as new patterns replace old ones. It's practice, and it works.

What if I'm not sure I need this?

That's what the free call is for. We'll talk honestly about where you are. If coaching isn't the right move, I'll tell you. I'd rather point you in the right direction than sell you something you don't need.

Is this therapy?

I have psychotherapy training, including Gottman relationship therapy, but this work is coaching, not therapy. We focus on patterns, behavior, and change in your real life rather than diagnosis or clinical treatment. If what you need is therapy, I'll tell you. If you understand your problems and need help actually changing, that's where I come in.

How do I know if I'm ready?

You're ready if you're tired of the same patterns repeating and insight alone hasn't been enough. You don't need to have it figured out. You just need to be honest about where you are.

What tools and methods do you use?

I pull from depth psychology, cognitive and behavioral approaches, systems thinking, Stoic philosophy, and Gottman research. I don't pick one framework and force everything through it. I use what works for your situation.

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